sorry for the double post, I was going to hold my tongue, but couldn't.........
I would say so, as your post is extremely disturbing for many reasons.
What does this mean? Define appropriate in terms of caring for your child. He won't bash him against the wall for crying but will change diapers? The child gets water every 3 hours but he won't feed him? Where do you draw the line?
You stated you have seen and experienced this before, therefore you should recognize red flags when you see them.
I have no clue what this means, would he care more for your child if you made more money? Regardless, this is no way relevant. He is either part of the family and cares for the family, or not.
I realize I am being harsh with you, but I feel it is justified. Wake up and put your child first.