Just to throw another stone in the pond. I am not saying whether this is the right decision in this case, but many patients who are on hospice CHOOSE to not eat or drink during what they know is their final days. Yes I know Terry can't choose weather or not too, but she was of legal age when she choose to get married and therefore legally make her husband the next of kin responsible for making such heart wrenching decisions.
And the lesson to be learned from all of this, and actually every code we go out on. Discussing things such as Full Code/DNR, and organ donation are yes very important, but you need to have the papers. What if you code when your spouse isn't around? make sure most immediate family knows your decision, if you are still close with your parents, fill them in on what you and your significant other have discussed. Maybe even let you r best friend who is not part of your family know. But most important write it out. Make a living will, get it notarized, have a POLST form (Physician Orders for Life Sustaining Treatment). Just have it in writing too.