My husband and I are both basics. I work 2 EMS jobs and right now, he has one. We don't get to see each other nearly as much as we would like and that makes it a huge challenge. On top of that, he has a little girl who lives with us so a lot of the "us" time gets re- assigned to his daughter which if fine but frustrating. After I've been gone for 3 or 4 days in a row, I want some time with my sweetie, not to read bedtime stories. But, as with anything, it takes work and the realization that there are things more important than me. It helps a LOT that we set aside US time. We sit down together a month in advance and pick a day or two for us to be together, alone. We take days off to make it happen then we shut off our phones and computers and spend the time together. It gives us something to look forward to.
As far as the education and swapping stories, I think it is refreshing for us to swap stories and share info. I know for me at least, it gives me a new set of eyes to see through...an extra opportunity to learn something