whirlymedic

SO I have a dilemma My regular partner while is a nice enough guy.. has a tendency to take advantage of the fact that we work in a relatively quiet rural area and the down time that is associated with that.. He is from the town, his kids go to the local school, and it is quite close to the station... his kids are involved with sports and such... while I can appreciate he is a good family man and wants to spend time with them... I personally do not... Almost every shift his wife and kids are at the base and many times they bring in food and sit down and have a "family dinner" they are often at the base for 2-3 hours.... On the weekends ( in his words "in the name of good public relations") he expects that whom ever he is working with to go to the local ice rink and watch his kids play hockey ... Note is is only when HIS kids play that we go... While they are nice enough kids.. I don't think it is fair to expect that everyone wants to take part in this.. and appreciates having the family descend on the station.. it can be awkward.. they discuss personal family matters, argue, the kids whine and fight etc...it is a place of work.. not a family drop in centre. fair enough it it was a special occasion or holiday but not every shift. I have tried to make it clear that I am not over joyed about any of this... and have discussed it with him but get guilted into going to the rink.. and made to feel like a total jerk when I don't want his family at the station. I have also spoken to management regarding the matter but little has been done to rectify the issue. So I am pretty much just venting.. but wondering how in a diplomatic manner I can make him understand that this really is not acceptable or fair.